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© 2018 It is best not to trust anyone in Colombia until they have shown that you can trust them. This is opposite of my personal style, which in the United States was to trust people unless they give you reason not to, but in Colombia this view will not serve you well. Take the time to know your woman. As for timelines, there are none. For some guys it can take years; for guys who are adapt at communication and observation it can take a few months. Whatever it takes, it wasn’t enough if you end up like these guys: I didn’t know my wife didn’t graduate from high school. I didn’t know my wife couldn’t learn English. I didn’t know she had worms. I didn’t know she was going to sit around all day and do nothing. I didn’t know she wanted me to wear a condom even after we married. It’s hard to feel sorry for guys that on a fundamental level didn’t know the women they married. If you are going to rush into a life long decision and not really know the woman you are inviting into your life, then an unwanted outcome should not be a surprise.